Tags: Attitude, Calling, Entrepreneur, Entrepreneurship, Personal Development, Perspective, Purpose
The very first thing the frustrated, discouraged, overwhelmed, burned out, and beat up entrepreneur needs to do before moving forward to a place of freedom is Get Your Head Right!!!
You need to realize that “YOU” are more than your business. “YOU” were “YOU” long before you went into business, and that your business doesn’t define who “YOU” are, or what your true value is.
What many struggling entrepreneurs tend to do is let every difficulty, failure, bad decision, and unmet goal in business reflect who they are as a person, I know because I do it myself. This behavior will not only sabotage your business, it will cut the legs right out from underneath your own self image making everyday tougher than the day before.
When we personalize every business mistake it becomes impossible to learn from those mistakes because we take the blame as who we are rather than what we did to cause the mistake, and this is a huge distinction. When we see a mistake as an incorrect action, we can learn from it, make the necessary changes to avoid making the same mistake again and ultimately have greater opportunity for success.
On The Other Hand
On the other hand, if we see the mistake as a reflection of who we are we blow huge holes in our confidence, and create doubt in our ability to make wise decisions in the future. When we can’t make decisions with confidence we become paralyzed, and difficulties in our business only become worse, which compounds the situation even more, and creates a perpetual cycle of lack of confidence, fear, and paralysis…over and over and over, and eventually we come to a point where we believe we’re failures, and we failed because of who we are.
Not True
Failing, and being a failure are not the same thing. We need to understand that we sometimes fail because of something we did, not because of who we are…the “Who We Are” is best displayed by how we react to our failures. We can beat ourselves up and feel worthless and stupid, or we can look at the facts, make corrections and move forward with confidence knowing we’ve got something of real value to offer, just because of who we are.
If You’re At Your Wit’s End In Your Business
The first thing you need to do is look in the mirror a say “I Am Valuable, I am here for a reason, and my Creator didn’t make any junk” Realize that you have skills and abilities, a personality suited for success, and passions, values, and dreams that are part of your mission.
Go For It With Confidence!!!
“Randell Mark” Olson
Randell – beautifully said. Joyce Meyer calls it confusing your “who” with your “do.” I have only in the last 15 or 20 years begun to see how much I had always done that and how it really impacted my confidence. You said it well – Being a failure and failing at something are 2 very different things. Personally, I think failure is when we just give up and stop trying.
Thanks Ann,
I love Joyce’s way of phrasing that also, “confusing your “who” with your “Do”. I completely agree with your thought that failure is when we just give up and stop trying.
We all know that it’s not how many times we fall that matters, it’s about getting back up again every single time.
Thanks Ann
Randell
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I’ve heard set that when we identify ourselves by what we have and what we do, then if we lose what we have or what we do, then who we are also goes away in the process. So is with our mistakes… If we identify ourselves with those mistakes, then we feel like we’re a mistake when it happens… It’s so important to step back and look at your business for what it is, and what it should be; a reflection of YOU… It’s not you… It’s reflection of You… Great post brother!
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Thanks for the reminder Randell. Too often it is easier to tie our identity into what our accomplishments are instead of seeing our accomplishments being a trophy on the wall of who we are–who God created us to be.
Thanks for sharing this reminder with us!
~Cam
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Thanks for your feedback Rob and Cam,
There is know doubt that our true legacy will be built by who we are, and not just what we’ve accomplished.
Thanks
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Randell…I don’t need to add anything to what you already wrote. It’s that good! I’ll just copy & paste a few of YOUR comments here:
“Failing, and being a failure are not the same thing. We need to understand that we sometimes fail because of something we did, not because of who we are…the ‘Who We Are’ is best displayed by how we react to our failures. ”
Also…
“The first thing you need to do is look in the mirror a say ‘I Am Valuable, I am here for a reason, and my Creator didn’t make any junk.’”
Well said, my friend!
Kent,
Thank you buddy, I really appreciate you, hearing your thoughts,and affirmation means a lot to me!
Thank-You
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Randell,
Something we all need to keep in mind. In some ways, school trains us to associate ourselves and our value to our performance. The challenge with failing, for me, is accepting it for the learning opportunity it is rather than internalizing it.
Have a great week,
Jake
Randell,
Thanks for the reminder that who we are is not the same as what we did. I think if disciplining children — some people tell the child that they are bad when what they really mean is that the behavior was bad. I guess we are unknowingly saying the same thing to ourselves.
Have a Victorious Day!
Marianne
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